Saturday, August 18, 2012

Celebration of Life



Caregiving expert Patricia Smith on planning a celebration of life for a terminally ill loved one.

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QUESTION: My husband’s sister, Janine, has ovarian cancer and is not expected to live beyond three months. She is still mobile and seems to want to enjoy as much of life as she can. With that in mind, I invited Janine, two other siblings and three nieces and nephews to be houseguests for three days for some quality of time together, sort of a celebration of life. They have all accepted and now I’m wondering how to go about planning such a weekend. I know Janine tires easily, but several of the guests are young and full of energy. What do you suggest for activities for this very special, but very sad, occasion?—Helena
ANSWER: You are very kind to host this celebration of life that promises to hold many wonderful memories in the years to come. My first thought: Build in a number of options and choices for your guests. Weather permitting, plan a number of outdoor activities. Fresh air will energize and create a healthy environment for both Janine and her guests. If you have a lawn, set up a bocce ball or croquet set. This will allow Janine the choice to play, or sit and enjoy watching others. If there is a seashore, lake, river, bay or even a running stream nearby, plan a picnic lunch one of the days. Again, water offers everyone choices—swimming, wading, body surfing, sand castle building, or enjoying the sunshine. Keep menus simple and healthy. Go continental style for breakfast with juice, fresh coffee, tea, bran muffins, fruit, yogurt and granola. Most guests welcome lunch buffets with sandwich fixings, salads and fruit. Do you know Janine’s favorite dessert? If so, either prepare or purchase the sweets at a local bakery. She will appreciate the effort. If you can accommodate everyone at your dining room table, choose to serve dinners family-style. Casual dining provides an atmosphere where good conversation can take place. Welcome lazy afternoons where nothing is planned. Build in some time for Janine to nap or rest. Your guests can rest as well, or choose to take a walk, a drive or even go to a movie. Keep plans very flexible, take everyone’s wishes into consideration, and both Janine and her guests will have a visit to remember.
Patricia Smith is a certified Compassion Fatigue Specialist with 20 years of training experience. As founder of the Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project© (www.compassionfatigue.org), the outreach division of Healthy Caregiving, LLC, she writes, speaks and facilities workshops nationwide in service of those who care for others. She has authored several books including To Weep for a Stranger: Compassion Fatigue in Caregiving, which is available at www.healthycaregiving.comor Amazon.com.


Read more: http://www.spryliving.com/articles/celebration-of-life/#ixzz23up6QXMS

Apple-cinnamon golden oats for breakfast, apple brownies for the picnic!

Friday, August 03, 2012

Region 5 West - XC Racing & Team-flying Camp Chilhowee Gliderport September 1-9, 2012



Three events will be held at Chilhowee Gliderport during the Labor Day week (September 1-9, 2012):
·         The SSA-sanctioned Region 5 West (R5W) Regional is a split-period contest taking place over the Labor Day weekend (Sept. 1, 2, 3) and the following weekend (Sept. 8, 9).
·         The GTA (Georgia-Tennessee-Alabama) race series will hold a 3-day race during the Labor Day weekend (Sept. 1, 2, 3). GTA members will integrate within the other activities during the first weekend, and GTA pilots flying in the R5W Regional will also get a GTA score.
·         A two-prong cross-country and team-flying practice camp will be held during the week on Sept. 4, 5, 6, and 7.

Pilots are welcome in all three events. Those wanting to make it a full week of fun-filled activities can elect to participate in one, two, or all three soaring events, and/or enjoy the many hiking, rafting, and other activities that the local Over-Hill area offers during the week.

R5W Regional: Register on SSA website. Contact Sarah Arnold at info@chilhowee.com. Registration is $200 plus $43 per tow. Price of the first 2000’ tow and Saturday night dinners on the 2nd and 9th are included. Guest registration for one weekend only is $120 plus $43 per tow with one Saturday night dinner included. Extra dinners are $15.

XC Racing & Team-flying Camp: The Camp will have two parallel sessions:
·         One will cater to pilots desiring to discover cross-country soaring and to pilots who are relatively new to racing. Morning lectures will focus on the fundamentals of cross-country soaring, with topics such as preparation, instrumentation, thermalling, route optimization, McCready, etc. and will also review the basics of contest flying. Based on participant’s interest, afternoon flying will include flying in small groups over small practice circuits, each group being led by an experienced mentor pilot, including some members of the US Soaring Team.
·         The second session will be for more advanced and experienced pilots and will focus on team-flying methods and techniques. Morning lectures will include some materials from the US Team practice week. Afternoon flying will focus on pair-flying over practice tasks, followed by reviews, critiques, and discussions in the evening or over dinner.

Costs – $80 plus $43 per tow. No extra charge to full Region V West registered pilots.
Contact: To allow proper scheduling of tow planes, events, lectures, materials needs, etc., please let Sarah know your intent to participate in the Camp, including which session (cross-country or team-flying session) as soon as possible.


Sarah Arnold
Owner/OperatorChilhowee Gliderport
(423) 506-9015
www.chilhowee.com
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Thursday, August 02, 2012

from Dave Strange




Finally....Slavery Made Personal

   It is often true that "what you touch, touches you."
    For example, I remember a few years ago, a family reunion was held to celebrate the restoration of a cemetery that we had done.  Members of the family came, literally, from all corners of the continental U.S.  After the ceremony, the leader of that family effort came over to me.  "See that man over there with his hand on the tombstone?"
    I looked and saw a grown man leaning respectfully toward a tall old tombstone, his hand flat against it .... tears flowing from his eyes.  "That is my son," the woman said. "He disagreed with this cemetery restoration work the whole time, thinking it to be just a silly waste of time over people he had never known."
    "That tombstone is his great-grandfather, and he just told me, 'Now I get it, Mom.  Now I get it.' "
    That is how I feel about some old papers that I come across from time to time at the Museum.
    We had several on loan a few years ago, for us to scan to our computer digital files.
    But I came across another just recently, as I sorted through one of our collections.
    Slave papers.  Slave bill of sales.
    Now I "know" about slavery and I "know" that it was wrong.
    But to personally touch a paper that was hand written out the same as if one was selling a cow, and touching the folds in the paper from when it was folded up and placed in the "owner's" pocket.

Now, I gotta say, that touches me.  It brings home, in simple terms, the reality of things.
    The slave bill of sale we have at the museum describes "for a sum of seven hundred dollars.....a negro man named Harry" described as "sound in body and mind except the tip of a finger on the left hand."
    It was dated 1859.  With the Civil War so close at hand, I wonder if the man ever saw freedom.
    Others I have seen describe women and children being bought and sold.  One I remember in particular was a bill of sale for a mother and two children in 1811.
    1811.  More than half a century before slavery was ended in America.  That bill of sale described them as "slave for life", and I suppose they were.  I wonder and fear what all might have happened to that family, so far from any hope of freedom.
    Now, this might all seem trite and silly to some who have closer ties to such things.  Silly to others because such things were so long ago.
    But it is not silly to me.
    And I doubt it is now silly to you.
    If it is, come touch one of these papers sometime.  Visit a grave site of a long-ago relative, touch the tombstone, and think seriously for a moment about real people of our past.
    If you touch the past, it will touch you.
Thank you for being a Friend of the Bullitt County History Museum. 
David Strange